The Art of Seduction for Women - Part 1
By Jay Nelson Yang
Body Language
Body language plays an extremely important role in the art of seduction, as most of human communications are non-verbal. If you do it right, you don't even have to say much to attract a person, it is a subject that deserves an entire book to explain and discover.
Think Fishing
Seduction is a lot like fishing! With the similar theory as you would place an attractive bait on a hook, and locate it at the right place that has lots of fishes swimming around. You'd fish different types of fishes with different type of fishing rod, baits and techniques, some fish you need to purposely shook the bait every once in a while to make it more alluring. Some you just sit there and wait, for some fish you must reel them in gently, slowly and carefully, and some you just reel them in with fierce strength. Same theory, it is all about using the suitable strategy, the right amount of strength, and use them at the right timing and occasions.
The Teasing Game
Teasing someone gracefully in seduction is a highly sophisticated skill; it involves knowing how far can you go to tease someone? And also how far should you go to get optimal result? How you go about it and how far should you go about it if up for you to decide. If you went over the board you might end up pissing him off, but if done correctly, it shows you are a fun, adventurous, witty, charming and attractive woman!
The rule of thumb; when teasing him with the stuff you said, always pick something that he can come back on, and try to avoid any touchy topic, otherwise you might hurt his feelings and made him feels like it was just you putting him down with your words, and it will not do you any good if he actually perceived it that way.
Touching in a Subtle Manner
Touching is very powerful agent, it creates a sense or feeling of intimacy, but you as a lady, if you want to use this technique, do it in a subtle manner; so men won't think you are easy and slutty and coming on too strong (Yes, we enjoy your touch, but we will think you are easy if you go all out on us!). And here are some examples that you can touch him in a subtle way, and you shall elaborate on your own and be creative!
Ex. In a crowded club you can brush lightly against him when dancing, or grab his wrist when walking through crowds towards the bar.
Ex. When he tells you a funny joke or story, you can gently tap or touch his forearm while laughing to his jokes or story.
Take a Picture with him and Get Closer
Do not underestimate the power of taking photos in a subtle, but seductive! Taking a picture with him is the perfect moment and chance to get close to him physically, you can even brush again him, lean close to him, brush him with your hair purposely and make it seem like that you are merely posing for the picture and didn't do it on purpose.
Picture taking is one of the few moments that it is perfectly natural to lean close to each other for the picture, so use it to your advantage, always bring a camera and ask him from time to time to take a picture, picture with you and him, or if you want it to seem more natural, then ask other friends to join in for the picture. When you are physically close to someone in a repetitive manner, it builds intimacy; just don't overdo it like a crazy picture-taking maniac. Moderation is always the key!
The Art of Giving Out Subtle Hints
Giving out subtle hints is crucial skill in mastering seduction; in which you give out hints to encourage him to take actions in your favor without being overly pushy or obvious with your true intention. Some examples of giving out subtle hints:
Ex. Frequent smile, there are many different kinds of smiles, to be subtle, we suggest a smile that will fall between a friendly smile and a seductive smile, or it could lean more towards either one.
Ex. In a club dance next to him without being too close, you wouldn't want to stand by, or dance next to a person that you don't like; so if he is not too dumb he will get the hint. And of course you can send him a more obvious hint by dancing closer to him.
Ex. Ask him to take picture with you, just you two, he will somehow know it is a sign of interest, because you wouldn't ask someone you don't like to take a picture with you!
Being an Elegant Seductress
Audrey Hepburn would be the perfect example of an elegant seductress, she is elegant and graceful, she is charming in every ways, she is got the look and she is very feminine, she is a lady and she acts like one, she doesn't chase after men like a Man Eater, but she always has men fell over her feet and chase after her.
She gives subtle hints and she flirts in style that mostly happen through witty and teasing conversations with men, in which shows that she is witty and actually has a brain, and she always has those iconic styles that are so classy that they last forever.
For most of men, a woman being categorized as an Man Eater is not very charming at all. A prime example of a Man Eater; think Samantha from Sex and City, if you are after lots of sex, then you can think of her as your role model or mentor, otherwise, think Audrey or other more sophisticated people around you or in movies as your seduction and attraction inspirations and mentors.
Text Message as a Power Tool
You might ask, in a world when free phone calls are made available through Skype or smart phone applications such as Viber or Tango why still use text message? Well, it is because text message provides several advantages over phone calls. Here are some examples:
Ex. Some people are phone shy, maybe you are not, but some people are, from our understanding, more people than you know. (I know it for a fact because I used to be one of them!)
To shy people and shy men, text message doesn't give them heart attacks like live phone conversation does. So they will be more likely to reply back and continue on with the exchange of conversation. Shy people sometimes are reluctant to pick up phone call simply because they get too nervous talking on the phone.... I used to felt that pain.
Ex. Text message is more casual than phone calls, therefore it can be used as perfect ice breaker, with phone calls you cannot just say something like hello or what's up, you are almost required to say more stuff, but you can do it with text messages, and after several exchanges of causal text messages, once you and him got familiarized, it is only natural for you and him to escalate to a phone conversation.
Ex. Text message allows you time to think for a perfect answer, sometimes when you talk to him on the phone for the first time you or him might get nervous and say something stupid or awkward, but with text message you can always think for best and most suitable answer. I personally prefer text message than phone calls, it has always work magic for me personally!!
Please check back for more seduction tips coming out soon! Cheers.
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